Trust in a relationship is much more important than you think. Many marriages and relationship has fallen, broken and went beyond repair.
In our own relationship, ordinarily we keep ourselves away from getting a charge out if more elevated levels of trust since we are hesitant to give it in any case.
There is a complementary nature to trust; the more you give it, the more you for the most get it. In the event that you’re not allowing trust, odds are you’re not getting it. Here and there we are the cause of our own problems in such manners.
Before any further talk on this let’s take a look at what Trust in a relationship means.
What is Trust in a relationship?
Trust has a wide range of definitions. According to mom junction “Trust is the faith you have in someone that they will always remain loyal to you and love you. To trust someone means that you can rely on them and are comfortable confiding in them because you feel safe with them.”
“Our past can control today and tomorrow only to the degree we allow it. The past should not be a place where we dwell but a place from which we learn all we can and then move on.”
How is trust earn in a relationship?
I was born into a family of Five including my both parent. I grow to understand that without trust a family is like an egg once it reaches the ground itself knows the implications.
My mom does talk about how she does leave my dad and travel far from home, for a long time without thinking negative about him. But all she thinks about is how will my Dad cope without her around because my siblings were still little then.
But in this modern age, a man or a woman can’t go far from home without thinking negative about their partner.
“Trust is not bought but earn.”
To earn trust is not easy, it requires a lot of work, honesty and patience to get someone to trust you. Do the things you say you will do and always stay true.
I once worked in a hotel and my colleague told me about how my boss would give him a cheque of $1500 to keep for a client of his. What I’m trying to say is that without trust my boss can’t let out such a huge cheque to my colleague.
- Talking about lack of trust in a relationship.
A relationship is not for kids we all know about that. Some relationships end up on the way because of a lack of trust. There are so many reasons why many relationships broke apart.
Below are some of the reasons for the lack of trust in a relationship.
1. You don’t let him know where you are going.
or trust to exist in a relationship, partners must tell themselves the truth about their whereabouts.
Lots of failed relationships and a lack of trust exist today because of the above reason. The refuser to tell your partner your whereabouts makes him/her gets suspicious about you. Always be true and open-minded about the places you go.
2.You conclude too quickly.
I know you love your said partner and want to know about his/her life. But doing it the wrong way makes you lose interest and trust.
as once in this situation. I was once in a relationship with a girl who loves me so much and I do love her too, but something was missing which I noticed and wasn’t happy with it.
I was with her one night when a call entered, I refused to pick up because I didn’t want anything to distract that moment. She didn’t ask me who was calling.
After that night I later noticed she wasn’t happy and she refused to tell me the reason for her sudden look.
My eagerness to know lead to my hunger in search for answers. Well, I later found out she was suspicious about the call that night. Trust me, you should have been there to see the way I reacted, I became angry. She later apologised after I told her it was my colleague at night and I dont want the call to ruin our moment together.
3. You refused access to your phone.
Why on earth would you keep your phone locked and far away from the one you claim you love?
Lack of trust in a relationship also result in you not allowing access to your personal life(phone). If you dont have cockroaches in your cupboard then why denial access to your phone?. Not a big deal.
Your partner is now part of your life and also part of all that is going to happen in it. Be free, allow access to your phone and see how things turn to work in your relationship.
4. Past hurts hold you back.
This is the most reason why there is a lack of trust in a relationship. You refused to trust your partner in your relationship because you were once or have been a victim of heartbreak.
To trust in a relationship is very vital and one most not bring the past to the present.
I have come to realise that those who have been hurt in a relationship in the past often and find it easy to hurt other people in a broken style of self-preservation.
Our previous encounter with broken relationships and trust will just wreck us from creating sound, high trust relationships and connections.
Once the trust is broken in a relationship one partner begins to question the entire relationship.
It is very important not to allow our past hurts to direct our present relationship.
As Sue Augustine, author of When Your Past Is Hurting Your Present says, “At times it may seem as though you and your past are one. Sometimes we fail to differentiate between what has happened to us and who we are today. If you have a hard time getting beyond that damaging mindset let me encourage you right now. You are not your past. Although you are changed and shaped by past experiences who you were yesterday does not control the person you have the potential to become tomorrow.”
A relationship is important but trust is more important and we must live by it. Let’s let go of the past and move on for it will help us spiritually, emotionally, psychologically and otherwise.
Some Quotes to Check About Trust in a Relationship
“Trust is like paper, once it’s crumpled it can’t be perfect again.”
“Don’t trust the person who has broken faith once.”William Shakespeare
“The best way to find out if you can trust somebody is to trust them.”Ernest Hemmingway
“We’re never so vulnerable than when we trust someone, but paradoxically, if we cannot trust, neither can we find love or joy.”Walter Anderson
“You may not always trust the people you love, but you can always love the people you trust.”
“When mistrust comes in, love goes out.”Irish proverb
“After all, damn it, what does being in love mean if you can’t trust a person.”Evelyn Waugh
“Better to trust the man who is frequently in error than the one who is never in doubt.”Eric Sevareid
“Trust is like blood pressure. It’s silent, vital to good health, and if abused it can be deadly.”Frank Sonnenberg
“A good relationship doesn’t need promise, terms and conditions. It just needs a SHE Who can trust and a HE who can be loyal.”
“Everyone suffers at least one bad betrayal in their lifetime. It’s what unites us. The trick is not to let it destroy your trust in others when that happens. Don’t let them take from you.”Sherrilyn Kenyon
It takes two to do the tango-the one who risks (the traitor) and the trustworthy one (the trustee); each must play their role.”Charles H. Green
“To be trusted is a greater compliment than being loved.”George MacDonald
“Trust can’t be bought, but can be earned.”
“Whoever is careless with the truth in small matters cannot be trusted with important matters.”Albert Einstein
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